Career Advice

When you Fall Out of Love with your Job

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We have all had really bad days at work. Sometimes these can be so awful that you leave work in a rage vowing never to return again. However, having a bad day is a terrible reason for leaving a job.

There may be lots of reasons for wanting to look for employment elsewhere, but not all of them are really valid reasons for wanting to leave. Lets take a look at some truly awful reasons that people have actually used to leave a job and why it may not be the best course of action to take.

Having a bad day

You are not alone! Just about everyone has some bad days at work and feel like throwing in the towel. However, stop and think before hastily writing out a hand-written resignation letter. Reacting in the heat of the moment without thinking ahead can mean trouble. Have you got another job to go to? How will you pay your bills until you find another job? What about references – how will you get a good work reference if you left under a cloud?

Take a deep breath and count to ten. Approach this constructively. Sit down and make a list of all the things you enjoy about your job. Include all the bonuses that you may not immediately appreciate about it, such as nice work colleagues, a short commute, free secure car parking, handy for the shops and banks etc. Putting things into perspective this way can help prevent just one or two bad things from clouding your whole judgement.

I hate my boss!

You love your job but your relationship with your boss isn’t the easiest. When you don’t get along with your boss it can make your working day more difficult. However, this isn’t the best reason to leave a job that you love.

If you work within a company with a line manager above your immediate boss, then you should approach them about the issues you are having. If this isn’t possible, then talk to your HR department to see how they can help. Your boss may not be aware of your feelings and knowing what issues you are facing can often result in a more positive change of behaviour towards you.

You feel taken advantage of

If you are feeling overworked, or like it is always you who is handed the most difficult tasks to achieve within your team, then it is easy to fall out of love with your job.

Leaving isn’t always the only solution here. Try to pinpoint the exact reasons why you feel under pressure in your role. Does your boss overload you with work? Do you have trouble managing your time effectively? Do you say yes to every request for help coming from team mates or work colleagues? Do you never ask for help yourself?

Try saying no, I am too busy to help you right now, to requests from others. Speak to your boss about the amount of work you are being given. Read up on some time-management skills and practices you could use and would find useful. If you are overwhelmed – try asking for help for a change.

The job is too boring!

Once you have learned just about every aspect of your role, a job can start to become pretty boring after a while. It can feel like you are just going through the motions each day without finding it fulfilling.

Instead of looking at this negatively, try to think that you are now so good at your job and you are so on top of everything that is has become too easy for you. Is a new job really the answer here? Being bored can lead you to look elsewhere, but what about looking in-house instead.

Most companies offer extra training and career progression opportunities. You can also ask for extra responsibilities at work to add a bit more of a challenge to your day. Most bosses will not be aware that your job need a bit of reinvigorating unless you speak up about it.

The commute is killing me!

Everyone gets frustrated or overwhelmed when trying to navigate busy roads, buses or trains and streets full of commuters. Your travel to work and home can add potentially hours to your working day, but it is still not a good reason to quit a job that you enjoy.

Try discussing some flexible working arrangements with your boss if this is possible. It may be good to work out a plan where you leave an hour later or earlier for work for a few mornings a week to avoid the rush-hour traffic. You can compromise by staying later or leaving early by one hour on these days and by doing this you will also be avoiding the worst of the traffic home.

If you are stuck on a long train journey for your commute, why not make the most of the travel time by doing something constructive with your time. Many train commuters will use this time to get ahead of themselves by sorting out emails and messages for work. Some will get creative and learn a new language via a language app on their phone, or some will simply listen to an audio book and allow themselves to become lost in the plot of a good story.

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